Here are a few things I’ve been thinking and wondering about. If you happen to have some advice or input on any of these, I’d love to hear it.
1. At Sadie’s last doctor’s visit, she measured at 27 28! inches. That’s just three two! inches away from being at the upper limit of her car seat. I’ve read a couple of places that, as long as your baby hasn’t outgrown the car seat in terms of weight (ours is 30 pounds) and your baby’s head doesn’t come within an inch of the top of the car seat, it’s alright to continue putting her in the car seat after she’s grown “too long.” Can anybody speak with any authority on this? We didn’t buy the most expensive car seat when she was born, but it certainly wasn’t cheap–not to mention the extra base we bought for Trevor’s car. Because of our Trevor-drops-Sadie-off-Brooke-picks-her-up daycare routine, we’re ultimately going to have to buy two “big kid” car seats. I hadn’t even considered the possibility that we might have to do this before her first birthday, but she’s still in the 95th percentile for length (weird, right?). Maybe we should start giving her coffee and stunt her growth.
2. Does anybody want to tell me about their experiences with any type of “natural family planning?” I’m not interested in it for religious reasons, I just don’t like the way the pill makes me feel (cra-zay). I’ve thought about getting fitted for a diaphragm, but I’m not sure I’d stay “on top of it.” That, and my OB practically laughed at the outdated idea (in a nice way). There’s always an IUD, but for some reason, the thought of something foreign floating around in my uterus is freaky. Wait, didn’t I just have something foreign in my uterus for nine months? My period still hasn’t returned–have I mentioned I might just lactate for the rest of my life?–but there’s no telling when it might. My biggest priority is to make sure I don’t get pregnant before Sadie is nine months old, because I want to have the best possible shot at having a VBAC next time, and there needs to be at least 18 months between deliveries to even consider it. My second biggest priority is to make sure I don’t get pregnant before Leah and I go to the Wizarding World of Harry Potter at Universal next fall. Mama wants to ride some roller coasters!
3. How far can I take it on this blog when it comes to REALLY personal topics? I’ve certainly written about some personal stuff, but there’s something in particular that I want to write about, and I’m afraid it might cross the line for some of you. I think I’d be less worried if I blogged anonymously. Not because I’m worried about what those of you who know me personally would think of me, but because I don’t want to make YOU uncomfortable having this kind of knowledge about me. My Aunt Margie would certainly have a fit if she knew all of the things I’ve already written about on this blog. But the thing I like most about writing this blog is being transparent. I feel like there are so many things that don’t get talked about–particularly around women’s health, pregnancy, birth, etc. and I don’t want to contribute to the silence on these topics. Now that I’ve piqued your curiosity…
4. For any of you who are only children: what was it like? Was it horrible? Awesome? Lonely? Empowering? I’ve always felt I’d want two children. Biologically, I am the oldest of two. In my aunt and uncle’s family in which I was raised, I am the middle of seven. My brother, Paul, was born when I was two-and-a-half, so I have absolutely no memory of my life as an only child. I’m sure it wasn’t too special, what with my parents being who they were. Even right after Sadie was born and her arrival was so hard on me, I was sure I’d do it again so Sadie could have a sibling. But then I got to meet Sadie. And she is freaking spectacular. Like, the best person I have ever known. I mean, I knew I’d love my baby as soon as I met her. But I was not at all prepared for how much I would LIKE her. She has to be the most likable person I’ve ever met. I know–without a doubt–that I have the capacity to love another baby just as much as I love Sadie. But I’m actually worried that, if we had another child, I might not like him or her as much as I do Sadie. I mean, I don’t like everyone I meet just the same. To get right down to it, I’ve even got relatives I like more than others (you do to, if you’re honest). What if that happens with children, too? I would have never guessed I’d contemplate having only one baby, but here I am. Of course, I think Trevor is pretty set on giving Sadie a sibling. But I just don’t know.