There’s a pretty interesting conversation going on over at Stand and Deliver right now. The author’s son is about a month younger than Sadie, and his night-waking sounds pretty similar to hers.
As in, it sucks.
If you know me in “real life,” you have probably heard directly from my mouth just how horrible Sadie’s nights are. Sometimes they earn not-so-bad status, but I’d have to say the longest I’ve slept in a stretch since March 31, 2009 is probably three hours (aside from that ONE TIME, after her one-week doctor’s appointment, when she slept a sweet six hours in a row–causing me to panic, of course, that she’d not nursed in that long–OMG, the baby’s going to starve!). The last few nights have been astoundingly horrible.
But, I have a plan. A plan! On Sunday, April 4, we will attempt THIS. It sounds hard, but it sounds reasonable from all directions. It respects Sadie’s needs for comfort, but it also respects our adult needs for uninterrupted rest. It does not advocate crying it out (CIO, if you’re hip to the lingo).
I’ve had several friends suggest we try CIO with Sadie. But I will not do it. I typically say that I “can’t” do it, which isn’t entirely true. I probably could. If I slept in the backyard while Sadie cried herself to sleep. I just won’t, because I don’t agree with it. I’m not passing judgement on the decisions of other parents who may have tried (and even succeeded with) CIO. But I believe CIO in any form would be hurtful to Sadie and would negatively change our relationship on some level. It is the wrong decision for our family.
I’ve got a couple of baby sleep books, and I feel like I’ve gleaned bits here and there from them. The thing I like about Jay Gordon’s method, though, is that it starts in three-day increments. I (think I) can do anything for three nights. Sure, it’s going to be hard, and sure, it might not work at all. At this point, though, I think it’s worth a try.
Because I AM SO SLEEPY.