Nighttime woes.

There’s a pretty interesting conversation going on over at Stand and Deliver right now. The author’s son is about a month younger than Sadie, and his night-waking sounds pretty similar to hers.

As in, it sucks.

Snug as a bug in a rug. Sadie's first night home. April 5, 2009.

If you know me in “real life,” you have probably heard directly from my mouth just how horrible Sadie’s nights are. Sometimes they earn not-so-bad status, but I’d have to say the longest I’ve slept in a stretch since March 31, 2009 is probably three hours (aside from that ONE TIME, after her one-week doctor’s appointment, when she slept a sweet six hours in a row–causing me to panic, of course, that she’d not nursed in that long–OMG, the baby’s going to starve!). The last few nights have been astoundingly horrible.

But, I have a plan. A plan! On Sunday, April 4, we will attempt THIS. It sounds hard, but it sounds reasonable from all directions. It respects Sadie’s needs for comfort, but it also respects our adult needs for uninterrupted rest. It does not advocate crying it out (CIO, if you’re hip to the lingo).

I’ve had several friends suggest we try CIO with Sadie. But I will not do it. I typically say that I “can’t” do it, which isn’t entirely true. I probably could. If I slept in the backyard while Sadie cried herself to sleep. I just won’t, because I don’t agree with it. I’m not passing judgement on the decisions of other parents who may have tried (and even succeeded with) CIO. But I believe CIO in any form would be hurtful to Sadie and would negatively change our relationship on some level. It is the wrong decision for our family.

I’ve got a couple of baby sleep books, and I feel like I’ve gleaned bits here and there from them. The thing I like about Jay Gordon’s method, though, is that it starts in three-day increments. I (think I) can do anything for three nights. Sure, it’s going to be hard, and sure, it might not work at all. At this point, though, I think it’s worth a try.


2 thoughts on “Nighttime woes.

  1. Stephanie

    Good luck!!! I very sincerely hope this works for you. I think I’ve given up–the longest I’ve slept has also been around 3 hours, give or take a few random nights, so I understand the need for change. I think, for our family, the only way something will change is when he stops eating at night/stops nursing altogether.

    I really want to try this as well, but I’m worried I won’t stick it out. Oh man. Decisions!

  2. Katie

    Brooke! We finally did this same “fix” approaching Honey’s first birthday since I was getting about as much sleep as it sounds like you are. The first step was a rule that said, “no nursing from 12a-6a”. When she woke to nurse, I would try to comfort her back to sleep. If this didn’t work, Travis would hold her while I went to sleep elsewhere. We found that it was easier for both Honey and I if my boobies weren’t quite so readily accessible. We started on a Friday night so if we had to deal with Honey crying all night we (ie Travis) wouldn’t have to go to work the next day completely wiped. It only took 2 nights to back her down to nursing around 11 and again at 6, and I could safely stay in bed during that time. We let it go for a week this way and then the following weekend made a new rule: “no nursing from 10p-6a” which also took 2 nights. Don’t get me wrong, night one of rule one was HARD. I was convinced Travis was ignoring her, and in my half asleep state thought maybe nursing wasn’t so bad since at least we could go back to sleep for a few more minutes. Seriously though, I had a new lease on life after the second night and we haven’t looked back. Honey still wakes once around 3 but doesn’t ask for boobie, just “hold it” as she says aka cuddles. Best of luck!


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